My teachers and I have a saying in our preschool and it goes like this…
There’s always room at the table.
It’s a simple saying and yet it often becomes a source of contention or confusion for early childhood teachers. Read on to see what I mean.
What Does That Mean?
What this saying simply means is that when a child comes up to a table and wants to paint, we move over and make room. When a child wants to play at the water table, we move over and make room. When a child wants to play in at the play dough table, we move over and make room.
Sometimes, we may have to pull up an extra chair. Sometimes, we may have to clear off a table where no one is playing and spread things out a bit. But somehow, we always make room at the table.
Take Advantage of the Child’s Natural Interest
You see, when a young child sees something they find interesting and wants to join in, the last thing I want to say is, “There isn’t room here for you right now so you will have to go and choose something else.” Instead, I want to take advantage of the child’s natural interest and build on it right there in the moment.
Have You Ever Noticed?
If you really watch young children, you will start to notice a few things when it comes to personal space.
- Unlike adults, young children like to be close together even if it means bumping elbows and reaching over each other. They crave physical interaction with the things and people in their world.
- Young children start to figure out for themselves whether they find a situation to be overwhelming or too crowded and will begin to self-regulate or make the choice, on their own, to do something else and even come back later.
- Young children develop their awareness of personal space through their interactions with each other – not by having adults regulate their space for them.
The First Day of School
When it comes to the first day of school, it is important to focus on fostering a sense of community and belonging. One of the best ways to tell a child that you belong here and that we care about you is to always, always make room at the table.
One of my mottos is “We always have time for hugs”, I tell my kids that on day one! We will stop whatever we are doing if a child feels the need for a hug.
Our preschool motto: preschoolers are flexible and good natured and preschoolers can do hard things!
I love this!!! The classroom I inherited had center signs with a designated number of spaces and stop signs on them—2 kiddos and STOP! I threw them in the trash. If 7 kiddos want to play in the kitchen center and they’re not upset about it why should I tell them no? Same with the writing center—it only has two chairs, but I have empty classroom tables sitting right there. I believe the stop sign posters are propagated by CLI, big in TX preschools.
The ideas here have helped me make big changes in my kindergarten classroom! Thank you! When/how do you address voice volume during play? I have been approaching it in the same way as personal space–kids will regulate it when they need to–but that doesn’t seem to be happening. Collective volume keeps increasing and increasing; I’m uncomfortable and I can tell some kids are uncomfortable too (putting on headphones; covering their ears). What advice do you have?
Hi Rebecca! What I do is when the volume starts to get too loud, I sing a little tune that gets all the children to stop and look at me. Then I say, “Let’s start over as our voices are way too loud.” Then we start off with very quiet voices and it grows again. I think the voices get louder because the children are so involved in their play so I don’t bug them about it all the time but at least once during playtime. I also practice this with the children as a mini-lesson at the beginning of… Read more »